Wow. All of this! I don't know where to begin. Your heart needs to be read by many a struggling step parent. I feel so blessed to meet someone who feels such deep love and responsibility.
My husband came from a very self-oriented mom. Married 4x. He carried (and is better), and still carries insecurities. There were times it was hard to parent in the most creative and decent/normal of ways, as he would almost unknowingly undermine. He wanted to be loved and couldn't mentally discipline. It felt a bit like I was a step parent at times.
I believe we pick our partners, not just out of love, but to do the things we can't or are too afraid to do. Then if we're lucky we take the best of each other inward and begin to appreciate those assets as we age. I came from a very stable, loving and well disciplined family "with" encouragement to explore and dream. Our kids definitely gave me a harder time. Because they could. I don't regret one bit of loving them well.
I guess each woman has her own precious story. It is in the stories of strength and resilience that women of real substance are found. Your husband's story is another under-the-radar perspective. Often times, men are viewed as free from weaknesses and insecurities but for us, their partners in life, we know better.We see their vulnerable side and just know how to be what they need to keep them going. In the end, you are right, there would be no regrets, especially if your heart is in the right place.
I couldn't have said this better. It's definitely another perspective that did leave me confused at times., if not on my own. My empathy was where my husband had no real parenting examples, so we muddled through. It wasn't easy, but there was so much we shared that was also a blessing to the kids.
Wow. All of this! I don't know where to begin. Your heart needs to be read by many a struggling step parent. I feel so blessed to meet someone who feels such deep love and responsibility.
My husband came from a very self-oriented mom. Married 4x. He carried (and is better), and still carries insecurities. There were times it was hard to parent in the most creative and decent/normal of ways, as he would almost unknowingly undermine. He wanted to be loved and couldn't mentally discipline. It felt a bit like I was a step parent at times.
I believe we pick our partners, not just out of love, but to do the things we can't or are too afraid to do. Then if we're lucky we take the best of each other inward and begin to appreciate those assets as we age. I came from a very stable, loving and well disciplined family "with" encouragement to explore and dream. Our kids definitely gave me a harder time. Because they could. I don't regret one bit of loving them well.
I guess each woman has her own precious story. It is in the stories of strength and resilience that women of real substance are found. Your husband's story is another under-the-radar perspective. Often times, men are viewed as free from weaknesses and insecurities but for us, their partners in life, we know better.We see their vulnerable side and just know how to be what they need to keep them going. In the end, you are right, there would be no regrets, especially if your heart is in the right place.
I couldn't have said this better. It's definitely another perspective that did leave me confused at times., if not on my own. My empathy was where my husband had no real parenting examples, so we muddled through. It wasn't easy, but there was so much we shared that was also a blessing to the kids.