I really enjoyed this. I don’t have stepchildren, but I do have two daughters and I am always trying to make sure that everything is shared equally between them, from sitting in the front of the car to cuddles. My eldest (12) isn’t quite so cuddly but my youngest (9) is, so sometimes I feel guilty if I feel the little one has had loads of cuddles, but my eldest has her time with my by talking about boys. So I guess it’s trying to find a balance between being fair and giving them what they want, especially if they have different things they want from us. I was impressed with how you deal with the discipline. I’ve always wondered how that works in stepfamilies but it seems like you have it sorted!
Thank you for sharing your experiences! So much here that resonates for all parents, but also reveals the special love and dynamics that grow from a blended family.
Kath, I'm not a parent, nor a stepparent, and nor will I be (all of which is totally fine; that's not my point here), but I love your posts for the humanity you show, and I always learn a great deal. Thank you.
I sometimes think to myself, It was not me who had misunderstood true love. It was them. Because they hadn't realised that all too often, the heaviest things we hold and the biggest weights we carry are the things that can't be seen.
I can absolutely relate and agree with the balancing act. The physical touch part is so important. After all, we are typically only physically affectionate with those we are close too. Love the heart and thought you put into this. 💕
I really enjoyed this. I don’t have stepchildren, but I do have two daughters and I am always trying to make sure that everything is shared equally between them, from sitting in the front of the car to cuddles. My eldest (12) isn’t quite so cuddly but my youngest (9) is, so sometimes I feel guilty if I feel the little one has had loads of cuddles, but my eldest has her time with my by talking about boys. So I guess it’s trying to find a balance between being fair and giving them what they want, especially if they have different things they want from us. I was impressed with how you deal with the discipline. I’ve always wondered how that works in stepfamilies but it seems like you have it sorted!
Thank you for sharing your experiences! So much here that resonates for all parents, but also reveals the special love and dynamics that grow from a blended family.
Kath, I'm not a parent, nor a stepparent, and nor will I be (all of which is totally fine; that's not my point here), but I love your posts for the humanity you show, and I always learn a great deal. Thank you.
I sometimes think to myself, It was not me who had misunderstood true love. It was them. Because they hadn't realised that all too often, the heaviest things we hold and the biggest weights we carry are the things that can't be seen.
I can absolutely relate and agree with the balancing act. The physical touch part is so important. After all, we are typically only physically affectionate with those we are close too. Love the heart and thought you put into this. 💕